Above all else She cherishes Her submissive, in the knowledge that the submission of his will to her authority, is the greatest gift of all.
She has high standards and takes full advantage of the power given to Her, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.
She is in control of Herself first and foremost, so that She may control others. As a stern and demanding Mistress, She can cause her submissive to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, She will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.
In times of trouble, a Mistress will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals.
She is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. She would never ask a submissive to put Her wishes before his career or family, just to satisfy Her own pleasure.
To win Her submissive's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, She knows to first win his trust.
She will show Her submissive humour, kindness, and warmth.
She always shows him that Her guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of his attention, that this is a Woman he can learn from, and that he can trust in Her direction.
She is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, She will fight for Her man's honour. She proves to him that She is someone he can lean on and depend on.
When it comes time to teach Her submissive his lessons of obedience, She is a strong and unyielding professor. She will accept no slackness, nothing less than his best from Her student.
Never does She use discipline without a good reason. When She does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.
She is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear about his needs and desires. She is patient, taking time to learn his concerns, and knowing that as his trust of Her grows, so will their relationship.
She never has to demand ritual behaviour from him, he responds to Her out of the want of
pleasing Her. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. She understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Her.
She is secure enough to laugh at Herself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things; Strong enough to grow.
Her tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. She understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other.
And both of them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.
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