I have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do I have this right, I have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make me a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes my nature and in no way diminishes me as a human being. I have the right to respect myself as well.
I have the right to be proud of what I am. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring shame or feelings of reproach. My submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness. Anyone who does not recognize my submission is not someone I will submit myself to.
I have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make me feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation I should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.
I have the right to my emotions and feelings. My emotions and feelings come from I and they are just as valid as anyone else's. I have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make me who I am and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.
I have the right to express my negative feelings. Being submissive does not make me an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. My concerns are real and I have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers me, makes me feel bad or I just plain don't like something, I must say so. Failing to express my negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that I am pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable.
I have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away my right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that I feel strongly opposed to, it's my duty to speak up. Remember, although YES means Yes, failing to communicate the word NO can be mistaken as saying YES.
I have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. My submission should bring me joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong.
I have the right to have input in a relationship. I am an active partner in any relationship I enter and have every right to contribute to it. I am submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include my needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one I should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
I have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as though they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. I belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It's in that relationship I should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.
I have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells I that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less.
I have the right to be healthy. Health involves my physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes I to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond my limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to I to make sure those lines are not crossed.
Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure me in any way. The D/s community will stand behind me if I should encounter such a situation but I am the one who has to make them aware before they can help.
I have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to myself and others I may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something I have the right to insist upon it and protecting myself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has my best interests at heart.
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A Submissive’s Bill of Rights